Tips for starting a conversation about depression
Don't be afraid of talking about depression. Talking to a guy about depression and providing support is one of the best ways you can help.
Recovery starts with a conversation
Talking to a guy about depression may feel difficult or awkward at first, but it’s a conversation that needs to happen. Knowing how to start that conversation isn’t easy.
Below are some tips for breaking the ice around a difficult topic.
Here’s what you can say:
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“You seem pretty stressed and tired these days. Something wearing you down?”
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“You haven’t seemed like yourself the last few weeks. Is anything up, maybe something I could help with?”
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“No matter what’s bothering you, I’m all ears. Don’t worry, I’m not here to judge you.”
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“I just want you to know that I have your back, whatever’s going on I’m open to helping out in whatever way I can.”
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“All this stuff is actually pretty common among men – it’s nothing to be ashamed of.”
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“I’m not an expert when it comes to this kind of thing, but there’s a site called HeadsUpGuys. It has lots of practical tips for dealing with stress and depression. Here I can show you…”
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“There’s a self check on this site called HeadsUpGuys, maybe try taking it and you can get a better sense of how you’re doing?”
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“I hate to see you down like this. You know if you’re not feeling right, there’s no shame in seeing a doctor and getting their advice.”
Get more tips on how you can provide initial and ongoing support for a guy you care about.
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