Man talking about depression with friend

Recovery starts with a conversation

Talking to a guy about depression may feel difficult or awkward at first, but it’s a conversation that needs to happen. Knowing how to start that conversation isn’t easy.

Below are some tips for breaking the ice around a difficult topic.

Here’s what you can say:

  1. “You seem pretty stressed and tired these days. Something wearing you down?”

  2. “You haven’t seemed like yourself the last few weeks. Is anything up, maybe something I could help with?”

  3. “No matter what’s bothering you, I’m all ears. Don’t worry, I’m not here to judge you.”

  4. “I just want you to know that I have your back, whatever’s going on I’m open to helping out in whatever way I can.”

  5. “All this stuff is actually pretty common among men – it’s nothing to be ashamed of.”

  6. “I’m not an expert when it comes to this kind of thing, but there’s a site called HeadsUpGuys. It has lots of practical tips for dealing with stress and depression. Here I can show you…”

  7. “There’s a self check on this site called HeadsUpGuys, maybe try taking it and you can get a better sense of how you’re doing?”

  8. “I hate to see you down like this. You know if you’re not feeling right, there’s no shame in seeing a doctor and getting their advice.”

Get more tips on how you can provide initial and ongoing support for a guy you care about.

Approved by the HeadsUpGuys Team - Combining lived experience, clinical practice, and research expertise. Medically reviewed by Dr. John Ogrodniczuk.
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