Known as psychotherapy or counselling, this is one of the best ways of dealing with depression.
Talk therapy is a highly effective treatment for depression, even though it may be the last thing you’d want to talk about. A lot of men don’t like the idea of talking about feelings and emotions. That’s okay – talk therapy can still work, because there’s a lot more to depression than feelings. Thoughts, behaviours, and lifestyle issues all play a role in depression, and a skilled therapist can work with you to focus on whichever of these elements may be holding you back.
Together, you and a therapist can work on developing new strategies and skills for relating better to others, coping effectively with whatever curveballs come your way, regaining a sense of control in your life, and leading a more enjoyable and satisfying life. Our HeadsUpGuys Therapist Directory can help connect you with a qualified therapist near you.
Talk Therapy – Consultation with a Health Professional
It’s important to keep in mind that talk therapy is different from everyday conversation. First of all, it’s confidential. Therapists have strict rules about keeping your personal information private. This can help you to develop a sense of trust so you can talk openly about the issues you’re facing.
Another important difference is that talk therapy happens outside your normal everyday social circle. The therapist’s opinions are solely for the purpose of helping you with your difficulties. In other words, the therapist is not there to judge or to evaluate you in the way that sometimes happens among friends, family, co-workers, and team-members.
Finally, talk therapy provides an opportunity to consult with a trained professional who can give you extra support, an outside perspective, and expert guidance to pinpoint the issues that contribute to your depression and work with you to better understand and solve these issues. See our Guide to Talk Therapy for Men to learn more.
Far from being an open forum for whining or complaining, therapy is hard work. Between figuring out what’s behind your depression, how different issues play out in certain areas of your life, and developing new skills to overcome depression and prevent its recurrence, you’ll put in a lot of hard hours.
Forms of Therapy
There are many types of therapies; so it might feel a little overwhelming to get started. Some types of therapy are more symptom-focused and teach you techniques to reframe negative thoughts and use certain behaviours to keep your symptoms at bay. Other types of therapy are more focused on getting at the root of your depression, helping you understand why you feel a certain way, how particular issues play out in your life (like in relationships), and what you can do to stay healthy.
Research on these different types of therapy indicates that no one type is best and that the theoretical model behind the therapy is much less important than the relationship between you and your therapist.
Most good therapists don’t limit themselves to one specific type of therapy. Though they may have a general orientation that guides them, they’ll blend different types in order to best fit your situation.
Different Ways Therapy is Provided
Therapy can be provided individually, in a group, for couples, or for whole families.
Most therapy that is provided by professionals in private practice is done so individually. Here, you meet with the therapist by yourself to work on whatever issues are contributing to your depression.
Teams can accomplish great things. Similarly, talk therapy can be done in teamwork, in the form of group therapy. A lot of men feel uncomfortable when they first try group therapy. This feeling usually subsides as the unique benefits of group work become apparent. In fact, once they give it a go, a lot of guys discover that it’s just the thing they needed.
People go to couples therapy to work on challenges in their relationship, which could be contributing to a guy’s depression. He and his partner learn how to work through their issues, communicate better, and develop relationship skills to avoid future problems.
A family is a team and if one person on the team is affected by something like depression, all are affected. Family therapy helps everyone work together to resolve conflicts and improve family interactions.
Finding a Therapist
There are several ways to find a therapist to work with, including the following:
Ideally, you will end up with more than one lead. Call and request an initial appointment, either by phone or in person, to ask the therapist some questions. For more in-depth advice on finding and choosing a therapist, see our How to Find a Therapist page.
Selecting a therapist to work with is a highly personal matter. It may take some time and work, but it’s worth the effort. The connection you have with your therapist is essential. You need someone who you can trust—someone you feel comfortable talking to about difficult subjects, someone who will be a partner in your recovery. Therapy won’t be effective unless you have this bond, so take some time at the beginning to find the right person. It’s okay to shop around and to ask questions when interviewing potential therapists. Here are a few things to keep in mind:
Look for a therapist who has experience in working with the problems that you have on your plate.
You’ll want to make sure that the therapist you choose has been put through the paces by appropriate training programs – check for credentials and professional registration.
If the connection doesn’t feel right, chances are you won’t get the most out of therapy – trust your instincts here.
For more information on talk therapy and links to several articles, see our:
Cuijpers, P., Quero, S., Noma, H., Ciharova, M., Miguel, C., Karyotaki, E., Cipriani, A., Cristea, I., & Furukawa, T. (2021). Psychotherapies for depression: a network meta-analysis covering efficacy, acceptability, and long-term outcomes of all main treatment types. World Psychiatry, 20(2), 283- 293. https://doi.org/10.1002/wps.20860
Wampold, B. (2015). How important are the common factors in psychotherapy? An Update. World Psychiatry, 14(3), 270-277. 10.1002/wps.20238