- Thinking in terms of ‘should’ and ‘must’
- Unfairly blaming yourself or others
- Jumping to conclusions
- Focusing on negatives
- Thinking in terms of ‘black and white’
- Taking things personally
- Or other negative thinking patterns related to anger?
For example: If we imagine being cut off in traffic by an aggressive driver and getting really upset by it, we might realise that we took the driver’s action as a personal affront.
Thinking ‘This guy just cut ME off!’ Rather than this person is just cutting off whoever was in front of him. It was still a jerk thing to do by the driver, but there was no personal malice against us specifically.