PUTTING IT INTO ACTION
A guided practice to develop equanimity, enabling us to remain calm and composed while experiencing strong emotions.
A guided practice to develop equanimity, enabling us to remain calm and composed while experiencing strong emotions.
Self-control is a skill that requires awareness and practice
In this practice, we’ll build from the body scan in Lesson 2, widening our focus to the entire body with an intention for equanimity.
We are practicing a specific kind of willingness to be with our internal experience. This means offering an equal interest to sensations, whether they’re experienced as pleasant, unpleasant, or neutral.
It also means bringing a willingness to experience sounds, thoughts, and emotions that naturally come to our attention. For example, if you start the practice, then notice sounds of construction from outside, instead of getting frustrated or feeling the urge to give up and try again later, note these feelings and how they manifest in your body. The goal here is to observe and explore all sensations, even those that are unpleasant, to develop the skill of equanimity.
Bringing equanimity to body sensations is a key component in developing equanimity in everyday life.
Difficult emotions seem to linger longer than positive ones. This is partly because difficult thoughts and emotions are often accompanied by unpleasant body sensations.
These unpleasant sensations are interpreted by our brain as something being wrong, which can reactivate a sense of distress, causing a feedback loop of reactivity. When we’re not aware of this reactivity, it can lead to a snowballing effect of increased distress and suffering.
By bringing equanimity to the body sensations themselves, we have the opportunity to disrupt this feedback loop.
In order to gain better awareness and control of how we react to our emotions, we need to first recognize our instinctive responses.
Deliberately noticing whether sensations are experienced as pleasant, unpleasant, or neutral during meditation practice can make it easier to notice these sensations – and recognize reactivity towards them – during the busyness of daily life.
Rather than feeling stuck or blaming ourselves for the thoughts and emotions that arise within us, we can recognize them for what they are: conditioned reactions.
Follow along with the steps below, as we guide you through a short five to ten minute equanimity practice.
Feel free to practice at your own pace with the following script or skip to the guided audio practice below.
This practice is led by Dr. Thomas Stark, psychiatrist and Clinical Lecturer at the University of Calgary. He has a strong interest in mindfulness-based programs and employs it in his work with Canadian Armed Forces veterans and RCMP members.
The next page includes a Workbench Exercise that gives us the opportunity to reflect on this practice.
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