Aaron's Story
Aaron shares his journey from a marriage breakdown, depression, and self-doubt to releasing anger, reconnecting with himself, and hing others do the same.
"Depression is often anger turned inward, and healing begins by safely releasing that anger."
About Aaron:
I’m a Change Management Partner at Prospera Credit Union helping employees manage changes in their role and changes that impact the organization as a whole.
Outside of my full time work, I am also a mental wellness coach and best-selling author. I help men heal from depression and anxiety, empowering them to connect with their true selves through education in a men’s mental wellness community and personalized coaching sessions.
WHAT WAS THE MAJOR TURNING POINT IN YOUR RECOVERY FROM DEPRESSION?
At 37, I faced a marriage breakdown while struggling with depression and immense pressure in a high-stress sales environment. Consumed by self-doubt, I kept asking, “What is wrong with me?” Eventually, I shifted my perspective to ask, “What is this for?” This realization allowed me to uncover the hidden gifts in the struggle and begin the process of healing.
WHAT ARE SOME THINGS THAT REALLY HELPED?
Journaling: I used journaling to get all my negative thoughts out of my head and to connect to my feelings. Overtime, I learned there is research that shows journaling directly benefits mental health.
Anger: For years, I believed being angry or expressing it was bad. I found safe ways to let my anger out such as screaming into a pillow or at a tree in the woods as this helped me feel all the other feelings the anger was blocking.
Getting help: I obtained help from therapists and coaches who understood my situation and supported me through it.
WHAT ADVICE WOULD YOU GIVE TO OTHER GUYS FIGHTING TO IMPROVE THEIR MENTAL HEALTH?
I recommend seeking support from a coach or therapist to address your relationship with anger. I’ve learned that depression is often anger turned inward, and healing begins by safely releasing that anger. As you let it out, you create space to connect with the deeper feelings within you. Feeling and processing these emotions is essential for true healing.
– Aaron Solly, Engage Coaching Group, Surrey, BC 