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These workbench exercises will help you to slow down and more fully examine the way you communicate with your partner. Learning about relationships is one thing, but here is where the real work begins.

Sharing Relationship Roles

1. Review the following list of common shared roles. (Note any other roles that aren't listed here as well)
  • Planning dates
  • Groceries, cooking and meal planning
  • Messaging or calling each other first
  • Initiating intimacy 
  • Running errands
  • Cleaning and laundry
  • Where you spend your time (at one partner’s place or another)
  • Rent or mortgage payments
  • Caring for kids and/or pets
2. Make a list of the tasks you usually do.
3. Make a list of the tasks that your partner usually does. 
4. Make a list of things that neither of you do consistently.
5. Reflect on your current lists: Do you feel your contributions are equal? What could you change?
6. Set a time to review this with your partner.

This is a crucial step to make sure you and your partner are on the same page.

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