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Dexter Mai

Santa Clara, California

Dexter Mai

MSW, University of California, Berkeley
Years in practice: 8
Offers:  Remote Therapy

In my integrated approach to trauma therapy, I seamlessly weave Brainspotting and evidence-based talk therapy to provide comprehensive support for clients. Drawing on the power of Brainspotting, I guide clients in identifying and processing trauma through the activation of specific “brainspots,” while leveraging the insights and techniques of talk therapy to foster deeper introspection and cognitive reframing. I target both the neurological and psychological aspects of trauma, and facilitate a holistic healing journey. My practice prioritizes creating a collaborative and empathetic space, where clients feel heard, validated, and empowered to navigate their healing process with self-awareness and newfound strength.

Santa Clara, California
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Niku (Nick) Shah

Oakland, California

Niku (Nick) Shah

MA in Integral Counseling Psychology, California Institute of Integral Studies
Years in practice: 7
Offers:  Remote Therapy

My practice can help you take stock of childhood messages you learned around toxic masculinity and heteronormativity so you can truly let go of what is no longer serving a purpose in your life. Depression, suicidal thoughts, self harming, addiction and going through tough periods in your relationships can be challenging. You don’t have to do it alone. Therapy can help you heal old relational trauma that is causing you distress, so you can be your best self at work, with friends and loved ones and in your intimate relationships.

Oakland, California
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Dr. Nicole Bryant

REMOTE ACROSS CALIFORNIA

Dr. Nicole Bryant

University of Denver, MSW and Grand Canyon University, EdD
Years in practice: 14
Offers:  Remote Therapy

My approach when working with participants is to keep things low-key. The worst thing is an overly clinical therapist! I do my best to get on your level and to converse in the way you’d like to converse. I listen and then inform you of blind spots as needed. It helps clients remain comfortable yet always have that “aha” moment.

Specialties: Depression, anxiety, Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome, relationship conflict

Therapies: Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Cognitive Behavioral Therapy for Insomnia (CBT-I), Mindfulness, Motivational Interviewing, Solution Focused Therapy, Brief Therapy Interventions, Rapid Trauma Resolution

REMOTE ACROSS CALIFORNIA
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Connor Moss

Santa Cruz, California

Connor Moss

MA, California Institute of Integral Studies
Years in practice: 8
Offers:  Remote Therapy

I offer client centered, humanistic, and solutions oriented therapy for individuals and couples in Santa Cruz, CA and online anywhere in California. I love helping people move through difficult patterns and emotions in their lives to emerge on the other side stronger and more engaged in their lives.

Santa Cruz, California
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Sara Okman

San Francisco, California

Sara Okman

Master's in Family Therapy, Thomas Jefferson University
Years in practice: 15
Offers:  Remote Therapy

As a sex therapist, couples counselor and psychotherapist, I help clients foster better relationships with themselves and their partners. I specialize in helping to negotiate desire discrepancy, low-sexual marriages, and navigate the impact of extra-marital relationships, including polyamory, consensual non-monogamy & infidelity.
Using practical, easy to implement tools, we will address and rectify what needs to shift, while emphasizing and solidifying what’s already working well. Together we will do the kind of work that produces positive, lasting change.

San Francisco, California
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Matthew Grundy

Oakland, California

Matthew Grundy

MA, Integral Counseling Psychology, California Institute of Integral Studies (Qualifying)
Years in practice: 4
Offers:  Remote Therapy

My approach is one that allows all of you to show up in the therapy room. Anxiety, depression, overthinking, difficulty connecting in relationships, shame… all these things can impact our ability to live our life to the fullest. So much of the cultural messaging around masculinity centers around avoiding vulnerability, and avoiding difficult emotions. By being present to what is actually here, we are much better equipped to choose how we want to show up in our lives. Talking with someone, especially as a man, can feel difficult, and I strive to provide an environment that feels comfortable, safe, and real. Reach out for a free consultation.

Oakland, California
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Matt Ahrens

REMOTE ACROSS CALIFORNIA

Matt Ahrens

MA, California Institute of Integral Studies
Years in practice: 10
Offers:  Remote Therapy

Therapy with me is a mix of honest reflection and practical tools. It’s a space where you can drop the pressure to have it all together and get real about what’s working – and what’s not. Together, we’ll explore the patterns and beliefs that are keeping you stuck and build clear, effective strategies to help you move forward with purpose.

I help professional men reduce stress, improve relationships, and reconnect with purpose in work and life. My approach blends insight and action – so you don’t just talk about change, you start living it. You don’t have to keep going in circles. Schedule a free consultation today, and let’s get to work.

REMOTE ACROSS CALIFORNIA
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Therapy on Fig

Los Angeles, California

Therapy on Fig

Number of Therapists: 5
Offers:  Remote Therapy, Individual Therapy

We believe therapy should be highly tailored to you. We provide individual psychotherapy to adults who believe lasting change is built on a compassionate and trusting relationship with themselves first. Our approach is trauma-informed, culturally inclusive, and identity-affirming. Using traditional talk therapy and IFS (Internal Family Systems), we specialize in trauma recovery and building systems that work with ADHD, addiction, and working through conflicts, anger, and depression.

Our clients describe themselves as creatives, artists, and professionals who are socially conscious, open-minded, neurodiverse, and peacemakers/givers.

Los Angeles, California
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Dr. Jim Coil

San Diego, California

Dr. Jim Coil

EdD in Higher Education Leadership, Azusa Pacific University and MA in Counseling Psychology, National University
Years in practice: 25+
Offers:  Remote Therapy

As an interactive, solution-focused therapist, my approach is to provide support and practical feedback to help clients effectively address personal life challenges. I integrate complementary methodologies and techniques to offer a highly personalized approach tailored to each client. With compassion and understanding, I wish to support each individual to help them build on their strengths and attain the personal growth they are committed to accomplishing. I specialize in in individual, couples and family therapy addressing mood disorders, trauma and conflict using cognitive behavioral techniques and emotionally focused therapies. Specialties include mood disorders, trauma, and addiction.

San Diego, California
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Michael Keesey

REMOTE ACROSS CALIFORNIA

Michael Keesey

MA in Counseling, Saint Mary's College of California
Years in practice: 5
Offers:  Remote Therapy

My ideal client struggles with low self-esteem, self-doubt, and negative self-talk, often rooted in past experiences. These internal blocks keep them from reaching their potential in personal, professional, or creative areas. They deeply desire to feel empowered, build confidence, and take meaningful action toward their goals.

REMOTE ACROSS CALIFORNIA
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Rebecca Bernstein

REMOTE ACROSS CALIFORNIA

Rebecca Bernstein

MSW, University of Denver
Years in practice: 6
Offers:  Remote Therapy

My clinical lens is founded on the belief that clients are the true experts of their own lives, and the therapeutic relationship is a means towards exploration, empowerment, and actualization. My goal is to focus on you as a whole person. I am passionate about advocating for each client’s needs and supporting their wants, needs, and goals with compassion, empathy, and understanding. I integrate aspects of Brainspotting, ACT, CBT, narrative, psychodynamic, existential and mindfulness to individualize each client’s care.

REMOTE ACROSS CALIFORNIA
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Omar Anthony Bocobo

REMOTE ACROSS CALIFORNIA

Omar Anthony Bocobo

MSW, University of Southern California
Years in practice: 25+
Offers:  Remote Therapy

If you’ve been carrying the weight of trauma, chronic stress, anxiety, depression, or grief, it can feel exhausting to navigate it on your own. You may want therapy that is clear, organized, and focused—a process where you know what you’re working on, why it matters, and how each session supports your goals.

I help men who prefer a structured, concrete approach to therapy. I integrate evidence-based modalities, practical skill-building, and holistic mind-body strategies so you can understand patterns, create change, and feel more grounded and emotionally regulated in daily life.

Whether you’re processing old wounds, managing current stressors, or rebuilding after loss, we work at a pace that feels safe and steady—always with clarity, compassion, and respect.

REMOTE ACROSS CALIFORNIA
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Matt Seastrom

Newport Beach, California

Matt Seastrom

MA in Clinical Psychology, Pepperdine University
Years in practice: 3
Offers:  Remote Therapy

My focus is on helping men navigate the unique challenges they face whether it’s in their teenage years or as they approach middle age. My services are designed to support men by providing them with a space to be open and honest about their thoughts and to deal with their men’s issues. Founded with a passion for mental wellness, I have been dedicated to making a positive impact in the lives of individuals. I am driven by the belief that everyone deserves the opportunity to thrive, and I am honored to work alongside you on this transformative path. I offer a range of resources and strategies to enhance your well-being.

Newport Beach, California
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Dr. Philip Lance

Los Angeles, California

Dr. Philip Lance

PhD in Clinical Psychology, Pacifica Graduate Institute
Years in practice: 15
Offers:  Remote Therapy

I am a clinical psychologist with a specialty in psychoanalysis and LGBTQ affirmative psychotherapy. I can be helpful with dating, relationships, marriage issues, work, career changes, intimacy, and sexuality. I work with many academics, students, writers, filmmakers, and healthcare professionals.

Los Angeles, California
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Eric Kruse

Los Angeles, California

Eric Kruse

MA in Clinical Psychology, Pepperdine University
Years in practice: 10
Offers:  Remote Therapy

I believe the most meaningful way to connect is through listening. Each person has a unique and interesting story that should be heard. Perhaps the greatest support we can offer is our undivided attention. I consider it a privilege to provide a safe space where people discover new aspects of themselves.

Couples Counseling, Addiction, and Men’s Issues are my specialty.

Los Angeles, California
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