How Healthy Is Your Relationship?

This quick quiz gives you an opportunity to assess your relationship using a clinically-validated scale, and receive feedback on how to improve it.

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If you find yourself asking questions like: 

  • Am I happy in my relationship?
  • Do I love my girlfriend/wife/boyfriend/partner?
  • Am I satisfied with my relationship?
  • Is my relationship good for me?

…our assessment below can help you answer these questions and navigate your thoughts. 

RELATIONSHIPS AND MENTAL HEALTH

A healthy and fulfilling relationship has a huge positive influence on both mental and physical well-being. However, if a relationship becomes strained, it can start to take a toll on our mental health, potentially leading or contributing to conditions like depression and anxiety.[1]

External stressors such as trouble at work, financial difficulties, or unresolved trauma can contribute to additional strain on a relationship.[2,3] At the same time, poor communication, mismatched expectations, or a lack of trust or intimacy within a relationship can create stress that spills over into other aspects of our lives.

When combined, external and internal stressors can form a feedback loop that intensifies the negative effects of issues that arise both within and outside a relationship.

ASSESSING YOUR RELATIONSHIP

It’s difficult to reduce the health of a relationship to a single number based on a standardized scale. Remember, that the ways of expressing intimacy and trust vary across cultures, and every relationship has its own unique bond.[3]

With these limitations in mind, researchers have developed tools for assessing relationship satisfaction, which can help to identify warning signs and let you know whether it’s time to seek outside help, such as therapy or couples counselling. These scales also help to map out how the health of a relationship relates to psychological and physical well-being.[3,4]

The Relationship Assessment Scale (RAS) is a widely used and well-established tool that has been studied and shown to be clinically validated across many languages and cultures. This scale can also be used to measure non-romantic relationships, such as close bonds with friends and family members. 

Once you’ve completed the assessment, we’ll give you feedback and advice based on your score. You can also record your score and take the assessment again later to see how it changes over time.

Come back and track your progress

This test can be used as a tool to track the health of your relationship and monitor how it changes over time.

Disclaimer

This is a subjective test that provides a general assessment of your relationship satisfaction. It doesn’t provide an indication of whether a relationship will last or diagnose particular faults. The score provided can be used to determine whether it’s a good time to seek further resources, advice, or counselling. It is also important to be aware of signs of abuse:

  • Signs of an abusive relationship include your partner constantly needing to know where you are and who you’re hanging out with, checking your phone without permission, keeping you away from friends or family, preventing access to money, threats of violence, physical abuse, sexual assault or coercion. 

Though it doesn’t get spoken about much, men can be victims of domestic abuse too – in both queer and heterosexual relationships. Men being victims in abusive relationships is more common than what many people may think. More information on what abuse and domestic violence looks like. 

Privacy

The Relationship Assessment Scale (RAS) survey is anonymous and no personally identifying information is required. It includes an opt-in demographic section that helps inform our understanding of our visitors and the development of our content.

Contact information for our email newsletter (if you choose to opt-in) and your RAS responses are stored separately. See our terms, privacy, and conditions for more information.

References

  1. Yucel, D. (2017). The dyadic nature of relationships: Relationship satisfaction among married and cohabiting couples. Applied Research in Quality of Life, 13(1), 37–58. https://doi.org/10.1007/s11482-017-9505-z
  2. Adamczyk, K., Kleka, P., & Frydrychowicz, M. (2022). Psychometric functioning, measurement invariance, and external associations of the Relationship Assessment Scale in a sample of Polish Adults. Scientific reports, 12(1). https://doi.org/10.1038/s41598-022-26653-6
  3. Tai, T., Baxter, J., & Hewitt, B. (2014). Do co-residence and intentions make a difference? relationship satisfaction in married, cohabiting, and living apart together couples in four countries. Demographic Research, 31, 71-103. doi:https://doi.org/10.4054/DemRes.2014.31.3
  4. Gere, J., & MacDonald, G. (2012). Assessing relationship quality across cultures: An examination of measurement equivalence. Personal Relationships, 20(3), 422–442. https://doi.org/10.1111/pere.12001