Starting a conversation
If you suspect that a guy in your life may be thinking about suicide, you need to voice your concerns. This can be a challenging talk to have; one that requires courage. Many people falsely presume that discussing suicide will make things worse – this couldn’t be further from the truth. If you are concerned, speak up – it could save someone’s life.
Try to also pay particular attention to the words you use when discussing suicide. Many of the terms we use to describe suicide carry harmful connotations which contribute to the shame and silence surrounding suicide, and may actually make someone feel worse. By reframing the way you talk about suicide, you can help lessen the stigma around it and reaching out for support.
- Talking to a guy about his darkest thoughts requires privacy and patience.
- Be as calm and relaxed as possible.
- Be sympathetic and receptive to what he has to say. Sometimes a guy just needs to know that it’s OK to talk about things he is struggling with.
- Avoid be judgemental, lecturing, or offering to fix his problems.