Throughout October 2016, we will be fundraising to Keep HeadsUpGuys Going and sharing stories of recovery and practical tips from men who have fought and overcome depression.
"I can reflect and talk about the negative experiences I have lived through but I don’t feel attached or bound to them."
I’m a singer, songwriter, and co-producer who was born in Tegucigalpa, Honduras and currently resides in Vancouver, British Columbia.
In addition to my recording career, I’m a contributor and music reviewer for I Am Entertainment Magazine & The Miews.com. I’m also the Marketing Director for the Miews Music Awards (2MAs) while holding a seat on the panel of judges for the award show. I also act as a global brand influencer and model for the Paris based company Carlyle Brown clothing and model for Shugarboy Brand clothing.
To find out more about me please visit http://www.artistecard.com/JonnyNoel.
At the time I was in a very toxic work environment that was continuously out of my control, while at the same time I was in a relationship that was extremely unhealthy, emotionally abusive, and one night turned physical – which was the instant end for me and the beginning of the end of the darkness I was living in. The 2008 recession hit and I was unable to just quit the horrific company I was working for, as no one knew at the time what was going to happen.
One day I had this realization that people all over the world were suddenly in very turbulent if not devastating economic situations and there was nothing I could do to change that. I then thought to myself what do I have power over? The answer, my outlook, my own well-being, my happiness. I was a happy person and I really disliked the way I had been feeling for months on end. I realized that despite the negative things that were happening to and around me, I’m the only person in the world who can decide the way I feel when I wake up and go to bed, along with the way I react to things.
The sudden knowledge that I’m the only person who was able to hold the key to my own happiness was extremely enlightening and freeing. I haven’t looked back ever since that day. I returned to the way I was before this very dark time in my life and as a result became a better man, friend, and son.
Focusing on the positives
Talking to others
Learning to move forward
Talking. I think communicating to someone about what is going on with you is vital. Talk to friends or family members and if you feel that no one can understand, then go and speak to someone professionally. I’d even say start with a professional. There is not the potential of shame or judgement that some may feel comes with talking to friends and family.
There is nothing wrong with getting professional help and in no way does it make you weak or less of a man because you needed to seek guidance to prevent you from drowning in darkness. I also believe facing and taking responsibility for your part in why you feel the way you do is very important. I’m not saying it is anyone’s fault but in my opinion, understanding and accepting that you have willingly played a part in why you have reached this dark place in your life is a very important step.