Josh's Story
Josh shares how finding other guys who were open to talking about getting better helped him see that he wasn't alone, and allowed him to support other men in return.
"Being able to openly discuss my mental health with guys who understood me made me feel more liberated than I had felt in a long time."
About Josh:
I’m a recent Computer Science graduate, excited to see where life takes me professionally. Beyond my career, I’m a musician, artist, and gamer who cares deeply about mental health. I strive to bring encouragement, humor, and a listening ear to those around me.
WHAT WAS THE MAJOR TURNING POINT IN YOUR MENTAL HEALTH RECOVERY?
The biggest turning point for me took place in early 2024. Despite having made a lot of friends in college at that point, I was dissatisfied with my inability to fit in socially, as well as my body shape. This led me into a downward spiral of self-isolation, suicidal thoughts, decrease in academic performance, and little to no self-care. I had lost my sense of direction and purpose, and I had no hope that things would ever get better.
Around this time, I joined a fraternity and had been blessed with a lifelong brotherhood of guys who were always willing to listen when I needed to talk, and reassure me that things would get better. While my recovery was never a straight path, I found hope in knowing that I’m not alone. Being able to openly discuss my mental health with guys who understood me made me feel more liberated than I had felt in a long time.
WHAT ARE SOME THINGS THAT REALLY HELPED?
- Staying active: Working out has always given me a challenge to work towards, and seeing rewarding results has always encouraged me to keep working towards my fitness goals.
- Talking to someone: Being able to share my feelings openly has always assured me that I’m not alone.
- Mutual support: It genuinely brings me joy to be there for those who need me. Not only does it reinforce the fact that you are never alone in your struggle, but it also reveals your strength and belonging in this world.
- Getting out there: It doesn’t have to directly pertain to mental health. I’ve found that simply getting out of the house and spending time with others oftentimes serves as a reminder of all the wonderful things life has in store.
WHAT ADVICE WOULD YOU GIVE TO OTHER GUYS FIGHTING TO IMPROVE THEIR MENTAL HEALTH?
My dear brothers, you are never alone in your struggle. You were put on this earth because you have purpose. The world is a better place because you’re part of it. The fact that you are taking the time to read my story shows that you have just taken the first step towards recovery.
My biggest piece of advice would be to form close friendships with those whom you trust. Acknowledge that having people to lean on is not a sign of weakness, but rather a reminder that you do not have to carry it all alone. The real sign of strength is having the courage to speak up when you’re overwhelmed. Trust me – this one seemingly small step can change your life for the better.
Never forget, brothers: in this fight for mental health, none of us stand alone. We rise together.
– Josh N, Minnesota, USA