Whether a guy is dealing with anxiety, stress, depression, loneliness, or any other mental health challenge, there are general signs to pay attention to.
We’ve grouped these signs into six categories:
1. Changes in behavior
- Avoidance through distractions, such as spending excessive time online, working excessively, or burying himself in tasks
- Changes in work or daily routines, such as missing deadlines, struggling to focus, appearing disorganized
- Neglecting responsibilities at work or home that they usually take seriously
- Increased alcohol or drug use as a way to cope or self-medicate
- Disengagement from hobbies or interests that once mattered to them
- Neglecting physical health, fitness, or grooming habits
2. Cognitive signs
- Difficulty concentrating, like trouble focusing, forgetting details, or zoning out during conversations
- Struggling to recall important information or complaining of feeling mentally “foggy”
- Negative thought patterns, such as overthinking, doubting oneself, or feeling stuck in a cycle of worry
3. Changes in mood or attitude
- Irritability or anger that seems out of proportion
- Mood swings or becoming quickly frustrated
- Restlessness or a sense of agitation
- A “short fuse” or getting into conflicts more easily
- Difficulty enjoying activities that he used to be interested in, seeming detached from things he once enjoyed
- Shutting down emotionally, seeming numb or distant
4. Physical signs
- Muscle tension and aches, such as persistent tightness in shoulders, neck, or back
- Frequent headaches or unexplained aches and pains
- Digestive issues, like an upset stomach or nausea
- Fatigue or sleep disturbances, such as difficulty falling asleep, waking up frequently, or sleeping too much
- Changes in appetite, eating noticeably less or more than normal
- Feeling tired and lacking energy
5. Changes in social life
- Losing interest in family and friends and avoiding contact with them
- Feeling like other people don’t understand
- Withdrawal from social interactions, such as cancelling plans, avoiding conversations, spending more time alone
- Getting irritated or angry with others
- Avoiding conversation or seeming unusually quiet, distracted, or disconnected
6. Subtle communication cues
Men may not directly say, “I’m not doing well”, but they might show distress through:
- Jokes about not being needed or wanting to disappear
- Self-deprecating comments, often brushed off as humour
- Statements like, “I’m just tired” or “I’m fine”, even when it’s clearly not true
- Reluctance to open up, even when given space to do so
- Cynicism or sarcasm that masks deeper pain
- A change in tone, such as flatness, sarcasm, or resignation
Trust your gut
Recognizing distress in men isn’t about diagnosing – it’s about noticing changes. You know the men in your life – whether it’s a friend, partner, brother, colleague, or teammate. If something feels off, even if you can’t name it, it’s worth paying attention. Distress in men often hides behind routine, responsibility, or silence.
To conclude Section One, we’ll do a quick knowledge check to understand what these signs might look like in an everyday scenario.
